I’m going to keep this one simple guys, because it is essential that you get the point. I have been faced with this challenge time and time again and am slowly narrowing it down to why people struggle, why people give up, and ultimately why people fail at anything. Period.
It doesn’t matter if it’s bodybuilding, dieting to lose weight, a sales job, or trying to find the perfect relationship. It all comes down to your reset button and how often you use it. Let me explain that a little.
What I call ‘your reset button’ is actually your ability to bounce back; your ability to forget (and forgive yourself!) for what happened yesterday, last week, last year, or five minutes ago. It really is that simple.
It doesn’t matter that you ‘cheated’ on your diet yesterday, or didn’t make it to the gym at all last week. The only thing that matters is you hitting your reset button this second and making a choice about what you’re going to do right now. That’s it.
The more you learn to drop decisions you made in the past (whether it was a bad choice you made a year ago or that muffin you just ate), learn from them, and move on from them. Hit the reset button and make an intention for the right choice you want to make starting now.
You’ll get to a point where you’re so used to living in the moment and hitting your reset button that things don’t seem to phase you like they used to. And by that point you won’t be making many of the mistakes you used to because you’ll be living your life from a place of control and empowerment. Does that make sense?
The better you get at doing this and hitting the reset button, the better you get at being in control of your life. And the best part? It gets easier. Like any muscle, the more you use it the stronger (you) get.
I’ll share a story because it’s recent and relevant to this principle: I was having dinner with a few friends last night and my best friend made these delicious banana pecan muffins with an icing glaze on them, fresh and warm out of the oven. I should explain: I’m one month out from a bikini show, otherwise this wouldn’t be a problem, but I wanted to have one so badly.A friend at the dinner party pointed out that I had already had a fish taco (spicy tilapia and grilled veggies wrapped up in a pita, the only part that was outside my ‘diet’ was the pita), so why not just indulge a little more, I mean I had already broken my diet, right? Wrong. I had already hit my reset button. I had owned my decision to ‘break’ my diet and indulge in a fish taco, and it was the most delicious fish taco I ever had! I enjoyed every minute of it, then didn’t give it a second thought, moved on from it, and went straight back to competition mode.
If you think like my friend at the dinner party, you’ll always be living in the past, making excuses for yourself, but never really forgiving yourself for making ‘mistakes’ and being human. You need to own your decisions, own the past, no matter how big or little it may weigh on you, and make peace with it. Hit reset and move on. It really is that simple.